There are lots of different ways of communicating well meaning thoughts or suggestions.. one thing I REALLY don't like, is being TOLD what to do. It makes me feel extremely frustrated, and maybe even a bit resentful. I think everyone, with capacity, has the right to make their own decisions and choices. When someone tries to tell me what to do, I find it disrespectful of my own ability to make choices, or it lacks trust in my ability to make a good decision or two on my own. Being told to do, or behave in a certain way limits my creativity and ability to explore different options, and believe me I have an amazing ability to think outside of the box and come up extremely innovative solutions to the kind of problems life has a tendency to throw at me - thank you very much! Rubs hands together, job done!
Even the thought of being told what to do brings out my stubborn side. If someone tries to control my actions or choices, instead of complying with their wishes, I become about 1 million times more stubborn and resistant, even be to my own detriment at times, - 'What do you mean you SHOULD excercise, eat good food and sleep well"... (thought to self) greasy burger, late night and slumped on the couch today it is!
Often people are well meaning, albeit irritating, and I do recognise that there are times when it's important to listen to advice and guidance from others, but ultimately, the choices I make will always be my own.
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